R-E-S-P-E-C-T – Aretha Franklin reminded us how it's spelled, but a lot of us need coaching on how to show it. In both personal and political relationships, the failure to treat each other with respect is generating incivility, contempt, and violence.
There's an important distinction between respecting a person in the sense that we admire and hold that person in especially high esteem and treating others with respect. While respecting others is desirable, respectfulness is morally mandatory. Thus, people of character treat everyone with respect, even those who are not personally respect worthy.The way we behave toward others is an expression of our values and character. Thus, we should treat others with respect, not because they have a right but because we have a moral duty to do unto others the way we want them to do unto us. Again, it’s not because they deserve it, but because doing less would diminish our own character.
It can take a lot of self control to be respectful to people who are nasty, dishonorable, or disrespectful to us. Still, our inner sense of integrity should help us resist temptations to 'fight fire with fire.' As Lily Tomlin said, 'The problem with the rat race is that even if you win, you're still a rat.'
This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.